Intimacy

At the start of the year, I was approached to contribute to a magazine story on sex and intimacy— a topic that often remains misunderstood or shrouded in assumptions. The journalist posed some thoughtful and provocative questions that led to deep reflections.

These questions delve into topics that are rarely discussed openly but are essential for healthy relationships.

Since published articles will likely only feature a few select quotes, I thought it would be valuable to share the full questions and answers with you to offer you the full context and richer perspectives of the insights I shared. I'll be sure to share the final piece when it's published, but for now, here's a behind-the-scenes look.

How do you define intimacy?

People often associate intimacy with physical closeness, but it is much more than that. 

I define intimacy as the choice to be sufficiently vulnerable with someone—whether with ourselves or others—enough to risk being hurt.

The first part of my definition emphasises vulnerability, which involves being ‘open’ or ‘exposed’ in some way. The word "vulnerable" comes from Latin, with its root meaning "wounding," which helps explain the second part of my definition.

Many people are comfortable sharing personal information, sometimes even with complete strangers, but they do so without actually being vulnerable or taking any real risk.

In summary, I view intimacy as the act of being open and authentic with ourselves or someone else, revealing parts of our truths.

To help remember this definition, I use a simple and fun mnemonic. When you slowly pronounce the word "intimacy," you can almost hear the phrase "Into Me You See."

Intimacy with a partner can therefore emerge from any aspect of who we are—sexually, emotionally, professionally, culturally, physically, and so on.

We'll be sharing the next questions and answers in a special newsletter series, offering you insider knowledge and deeper insights into love, intimacy, and connection.

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